02 May The trap that every freelancer falls into
There comes a time in every freelancer’s life when you question your self-worth. It’s inevitable as you don’t have access to the systems and processes – which are inherent in every formal working environment – that will help show you how you’re doing. It’s just you and the computer – and a bit of interaction with virtual clients and colleagues via Internet and social media. Your mind starts to play tricks on you – well, when you’ve just got yourself to talk to (and maybe the cat) you end up having conversations with yourself and when you don’t have another person’s point of view to take into consideration, it becomes very difficult to see reason in anything – and so question your self-worth. So how do you end up not falling into the trap of questioning your self-worth? How do you affirm that you are worth something – when all you’ve got is yourself to reason with?
A while ago, I went on a journey of self-discovery to – in part – make sure that I didn’t fall into this trap. I put myself in the shoes of a strategist, looking at “Lia Marus” as a business. I looked at myself and where I was going, and questioned what my vision for my life needed to be – where I wanted to see myself in the next five years.
I came up with the vision that I wanted to make a difference. How I was going to do that wasn’t clear at that stage but I had peace with the fact that I had adopted this vision. It’s only been recently that I have been able to concretise this vision into tangible action points and as such, I have been able to get in touch with myself and always be cognisant of my self-worth – and not to let people diminish it. Let me explain further.
I know that my goal in life is to make a difference – it’s why I’ve been put on this earth. Nothing and no one can take this away from me. In order to make a difference, I’ve been blessed with a certain amount of skills and interests. Unfortunately, I’ve been ‘cursed’ with too many things that I’m interested in and – dare I say – am good at which makes it difficult for me to choose where to focus my attention. When I end up splitting my focus – and not being fully in the zone of what I’m doing – I end up doubting my self-worth and not feeling that I’m good at what I’m doing.
What do I do during these times? How do I get back in touch with my self-worth and realise that I’m a valuable freelancer? I’m learning – when I feel those feelings – to take a break and refocus myself on what I’m doing, why I’m doing what I’m doing and the value that I’m adding to what I’m doing. This exercise helps me refocus myself and carry on with what I’m doing.
How do you make sure that your self-worth, as a freelancer, isn’t diminished? How do you make sure that you always stay on point, confident in your abilities? Let me know in the comment section below and please feel free to share this post with other freelancers so that they can share their experiences as well.