The freelancing dilemma

The dilemma that – I’m almost positive – every freelancer has faced at one point in their freelancing career is choosing what projects to pursue. If you’re like me, I’m interested in a LOT of things and I want to pursue them all at the same time. However, what I don’t factor in is that I can’t do it all at the same time, although I’d absolutely love to. It doesn’t mean that I’ve got to give all my aspirations up – it just means that I’ve got to decide when I do what.

May was quite a traumatic month for my husband and myself – which is why this is the first blog I’ve posted in about a month. At the beginning of the month, in the early morning hours, we were woken up by two men ransacking our house. My husband confronted them in our study – which is right next to our bedroom – in the process of helping themselves to our electronic goods. Thank goodness the only thing that they were interested in is getting things to sell and they left both of us alone.

The material items are easily replaceable, however the emotions take longer to heal.

A very powerful experience helped me focus my life, prioritise my freelancing projects and – in so doing – get to grips with what had happened to us.

As you know, I am proud to be a Partner for Possibility and – as part of our training – we o on a number of courses to develop our leadership skills. At the end of May, my leadership circle and I went on Peter Block’s Community Building course. During the two-day programme, we learned that in order to become better leaders we need to get in touch with ourselves and make peace with whatever’s been troubling us for the past week, month, year – it doesn’t matter how long this challenge has been living with us: we need to make peace with it.

We are all part of a community, he says. We are part of a community in our organisations, families, churches, friendship circles… The number of communities that we can belong to are endless. It is through these communities and having meaningful and insightful conversations with members of our communities that we develop as a leader and as a person.

There are about six conversations that he recommends that you have with your community members. The one that was most powerful for  me is the one about ownership. During this conversation, we had to recall an event that had been plaguing us for a while and recount this to a member of our community. While we were discussing it, we had to look at what are the positives that it’s had on your life thus far, even though (up till now) you’ve thought of it as negative. When it came to my turn to talking about what  had been plaguing us. When it was my turn, I discussed something that had been living with me for the past 15 years or so – I felt the most amazing thing happen: suddenly it didn’t feel so much of a burden any more. I was freed and it was this freedom of mind that allowed me the head space to focus on what I actually wanted to achieve in my freelancing career.

For anyone wanting to go on a journey of self-discovery, I’d really recommend the Community course run by Symphonia. Follow this link for more  information.